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Hey.. I'm a sophomore in high school, I go to an all girls school in Missouri. I came to high school without any friends from grammar school really.. I had no close friends of which I hung out with. I came into high school and met a ton of people.. but all of freshman year I never went out on a friday night. Now, I just started sophomore year and I'm making a real effort to talk to people and try to make friends but it's not working. I'm in honors classes and it just seems like a lot of the girls in the class are not like me at all. I try to be social and make friends but no one seems to wanna hang out wiht me. I'm also just a totally different person at school than the person I am at home. I am really funny and loud at home and at school I'm quite. I'm shy sometimes too. I think people get the wrong impression of me. I just really want this to work. The girls in my honors classes are "loserish" I guess you could say, and the other girls drink, and I don't drink (alcohol). I feel in the middle.Theirs a sophomore dance in february and I want a group of friends by than so that I can meet some guys through them to go to the dance with. It's really depressing and upsetting. I know that most of you will probably say that I should get to know people, and introduce myself, and I am. I am in class with basically the same girls I was freshman year. If no one could give me advice, and encouraging story would be good. Is there any of you that were in my situation and found a group of friends? please help! (link)
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Hi,
I noticed something the others did not and I will be
straight up as I had the problem too. You said you were loud--that's something people get turned off by. Turn down the volume on what you have to say and
do not be the one to pounce or interrupt. Practice listening when in groups at school or around people you like rather than talking. They like this. To interject wait until the person who just spoke finishes and say I have a point I want to make if I can. Then take the floor and be brief.
Your problem like most people with this issue is what you want being what you need but has to come naturally. You cannot push people or make them like you or gain friends like that. It must be natural and any pushing of potential friends backfires.
Invite people you like to a movie. Again the loud issue find a medium between quiet and loud and use it. Let's be honest do you have issues with social skills or manners being misinturrpreted? Work with a parent on that and ask straight up why do they not like me? You need real answers to fix things. Do not ever tell yourself you are too shy or loserish BS is what that is and self-deafeating thinking--STOP IT-- or you will sabatoge yourself.
Finally, February is eons away right now so focus on now by February you may have a world of different things to enjoy or not based on your thinking and perception of self. Do you value you? Will others value you? If you cannot do this for your ownself how can others LOVE you back?
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Rating: 5
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best advice i've gotten thus far. thank you
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