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So my family environment isnt so great. I dislike my mothers boyfriend with a passion, and anyway, today I left my house on a walk, just to vent and I had this urge to go to Brad's house and just ring the doorbell, and just be like, "Hey whats up?" Well I never did it, but looking back on it, I dont feel like it was such a bad idea. I'm thinking maybe I'll still do it. I'm also fully prepared to either be invited in (which will happen if his mother isnt home) or have the door slammed in my face (which will happen if his mother IS home.) SO. I suppose theres no way of knowing what he will do, but I think I'll take a chance. Just to go over and hang out like we used to and just chit chat about how summers been going and talk about his movies and what-not. What do you think? Would this be totally wierd if I just showed up? Or do you have any suggestions about, well, anything?
- Kayla (link)
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Kayla,
It sure is nice to have a name with which to start my answer. I don't think your idea is a bad one at all, in essence. Remember what I said though about making sure others are around. You don't want to go inside if no one else is home. Ask him to sit outside with you and just hang. If you're tempted to start touching, etc, it will be easier to resist if your outside on the porch. I like the fact that you said that you think you'll take a chance. Sounds like you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It sounds like you're listening. Thanks for that and praise the Lord. I will say this -- I'll be praying for you, Kayla, and your relationship with your mom and her boyfriend. I know what that's like. My mom and dad divorced when I was 9 and we lived with my mom and her boyfriend for 2 years. It's hard because, if your mom is like my mom (was, praise the Lord), she seems to take her boyfriends side instead of yours "just to keep the peace." Hang in there, and if I can help in any way, please let me know.
--ByReasonofUse
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Thanks. School starts tomorrow, and I'm afraid he may be too busy or out getting school materials. So I'm definately going to do it, just wait a week or two. =)
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