I apologize for any harshness you percieve:

Oh gosh. The "we're so right together it scares him-- literally" excuse. You may be a lot like him. Heck, for all I know you could be perfect for him. But I'm going to tell you what I really think.

If you were the perfect girl, he wouldn't have dumped you. He wouldn't have waited three months+ after he dumped you to try and get you back. Try more like three minutes.

Ready for this: Guys actually like it when they're dating the perfect girl for them. They like it so much, they usually don't dump the girl.

But why is he not hanging around with you? Don't worry, I can explain that. He's not hanging out with you because he's basically afraid of you. He probably knows/suspects that you like him, and it makes him feel awkward and guilty.

Has your friend actually heard him say that you're perfect for him? If not, then it doesn't count for anything. But I think if you were the perfect girl, he would treat you a little better, and I don't know, want to be with you? If he does think you're perfect for him and he's not with you, I kind of think that means "you're as close to perfect for me as I think can be" not "you're perfect for me." They're different. Remember that.

Stop cutting, and stop dwelling! It's bad for you, you'll find someone else-- so don't tell yourself you won't. Or maybe Jimmy really is perfect for you, I don't know. If he is, it'll work out, if not, then too bad. In my experience though, the guy I'm in love with doesn't motivate me to mutilate myself.

THIS IS AN ADDITTION:

Don't count the times he comes back to you. Please, don't. Count the times he broke your heart and dumped you...

I'll tell you why he keeps coming back. Because he's looking for someone who is more perfect for him (if that makes sense..) He's trying to find another girl. And when he doesn't, he goes back to you. The-closest-to-perfect-as-he-will-ever-get.

But just because you're the-closest-to-perfect-as-he-will-ever-get doesn't mean he deserves you. Well, more like you deserve him. Because guess what? You deserve better, even if you think you don't.

well he asked me out like 2 weeks ago and we went out i forgot to add that part sooo he obviously isnt over me if he keeps coming back to me?

Love hurts. That's why I'm here to explain to you exactly what your significant other (or hopefully significant other) means, truthfully and unfortunately painfully.

In other words, I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, unless I really believe it could happen.

If you don't believe me, well, I can give you proof. My way of thinking worked for me and my wonderful boyfriend of three years (I love you Matt!)

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