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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself? (link)
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First of all girls act "so-called-Stupid" like your friend because they think that’s the only way a guy will know them. Now there is nothing wrong with BEING silly and doing crazy things, but not alright to ACT that way just to impress some boys (who all reality you’re better off avoiding at this time).
So what can you do? Well until pigs Grow wings, and birds gills, NOTHING! That’s right NOTHING. Your friend is making the decisions all on here own, only she can change.
However there are a few things you can do to help her realize what she is doing. Keep in mind these may or may not work. It all depends on the scenario and the people in it.
First of all talk to her, try to reason with her that the boys will only like how she is acting, not for what she's really like (in other words the boys like WHAT SHE IS DOING rather than WHO SHE IS). It will not be easy but it is a must if you want her to realize what she is doing.
Second, by your friend acting so stupid around the guys, she has got it in her head that that's the only way for a girl to get a guy. How did she get that in her head? Well I told this to someone else a while back and now it seams you need to here it too. "One gets such ideas into their head by; peers, today's media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a one's feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I will not name any more)."
So what can you do about it [the influences]? Well some of the things you can effect. Which ones you must figure out on your own. It is not my place to tell you everything, but to show you the directions. Once you have isolated what you can do for your friend, begin to act upon that knowledge you have just required.
May you reach your friend before she is lost to you forever! I know it is a difficult and long road head, but I believe you and your friend will come out alright. Best of luck, let me know if I helped in any way.
~Teen Guru~
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Rating: 5
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thanx...yeah, she does it to be "funny" and the center of attention
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