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Who I am is of no great consequence. I am a traveler of the Way. Having only seen a glimpse of the great and terrible storm that lingers around us, I can help anyone who wishes my help; all one need to do is ask. Every so often, the winds will change this message giving a new insight on the misfortune that lingers in days to come in our departure from the harbor we commence our voyage.
Some will not understand wisdom that hides in these words, for them I must say in time it all become clear. To understand these words one must have patients, experience, an open mind, and a willingness to learn. If you have these traits (in one form or another), and desire these words of wisdom, then ask away.
Love my friends, is a cherished treasure. Those who find in it purest form, will desirer nothing else. Those who do not will have an emptiness that the world can never fill.
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We all will love something in our time, it is inevitable. However whether we chose to act upon that love is another, we can let it go by as it passes in the river of life, or we can pluck it out when it comes into reach.
Furthermore what we love is also is up to us. Whether we chose to love our mates/partners or what they can do for us, money, power, fame, or whatever else we worship is entirely up to us.
Since the dawn of time, weâ??ve all sought to understand it, we can never fully grasp the power of it, but here are some people who have tried help us better comprehend the Supremacy of our Heart.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." Dr. Seuss
"Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it." Swedish Proverb
"Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them." Bill Russell
"Since love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul." Saint Augustine
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable."
Dr. Joyce Brothers
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Till the winds of your choices bring you back,
~Teen Guru~
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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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It saddens me to say there is very little one can do in such matters. Guys for no fault of there own have devolved a sense of arrogances. They feel that is not “Manly” to open up and share their feelings, they are afraid of being called; as Arnold states it, “Girly Men”.
That way of thinking can only change if the Guy wants it.
So what can you do to help him break down the Walls of Pride (Yes Plural)? First of all like any great opponent you must know first what exactly you are up against. I mention the Walls of Pride earlier, I will not discuses what they each are but I will, however, tell you about their builders. The Walls, like most barriers are there to keep others out, or oneself in. The way of thinking that your bf has came by; peers, today’s media, poor family life, betray of some sort (or what they think was a betrayal), cultural, and most importantly a lack of example! All these things combine to hedge up the way to a guy’s feelings (there are other reasons but for the sake of this discussion I won’t name any more).
So what can you do about it? Well now you know more about how the Walls come about, you can help him by looking at the list I’ve just listed off and look at the things you can control (or can influences). Once you’ve found what you CAN do, start influencing him in a positive way (be careful, it is not as easy or safe as it seems; friend can have a powerful effect in a young man’s life, both for good and for bad. That is why it is so important to hang around good friends).
I hope this help, let me know if it did and how it turns out. I wish you luck, you have a terrible and treacherous road ahead, one I know all too well. I’ve seen both worlds, where guys will hold in their feelings and go mad, but will open up eventually with the help of good friends, and time. Just remember it may look hopeless, and you think you aren’t making that much progress, but you are. Keep with it. May you see what I have seen already.
~Teen Guru~
PS if you like to know more on the subject or have further question remembers I’m only a mouse click away.
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