Member Since: July 26, 2005
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Okay, so I'm engaged.
I have a friend with whom I used to be extremely close. I found out, though, after I started dating this guy, that she'd had a crush on him for quite a while.
Just so there are no misconceptions, I'm going to emphasize that I didn't know she liked him before I started dating him. If I had known, I wouldn't have gone out with him.
I was talking to my fiance - he's friends with her too. From what he told me, I think she still likes him. She doesn't know we're engaged. He started to tell her on line, but she signed off before he could and hasn't spoken to him since.
She's going to find out at some point, but I'd like to tell her in a way that won't...hurt her too much, I suppose.
Is there a way to tell her without going "oh by the way we're engaged" so heartlessly?
The thing is, I could say that, but she'd never admit to me that she still has feelings for him because she wouldn't want me to feel bad.
Any suggestions?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down.
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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well you should tell her cuz she deserves to know. And to say it nicly tell her that you guys feel in love and that you would never want to hurt her but you think she should know and tell her that she needs to go out cuz she could find somebody better than him she may never know if theres someone better if she doesnt stop liking him. And if she still liked him, wouldnt she want him to be happy? And when you tell her that yall are engaged say it in a way where you care that she has feelings for him im sure shed understand and yeah she will be bumed out about it for a long time maybe but she will get over it.
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