i'm dan. i'm 20. i'm from cherry hill (south nj, near philly). i'm a junior at william paterson university (north nj, near nyc) majoring in english. i want to be a music critic or at least a music-centered journalist, or snag a record deal...whichever one comes up first. i'm the president/editor of the school's literary journal and english club. i'm in love with a beautiful woman named Korey who I've been with for 2 and a half years. i just put out my first record. i'm an outspoken fat admirer and size acceptance advocate. i am living proof that a high school experience involving depression, abuse from classmates, failing grades, attempting suicide, hospitalization, and generally the shit stacked against me can all be overcome in college. i am happier than i've ever been in my whole life. feel free to ask me anything, but be warned: you're gonna hear the horrible truth. i specialize in sex and music questions. my blind spots are sports and cars.
Website: dan ex machina
Gender: Male
Location: NJ
Occupation: rocker
Age: 20
AIM: danexmachina
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Heyy, I wanted to ask you a question b/c you have good ratings, and you're a guy.
Let me tell you the reason I'm having a problem first: I go to a mostly girls school and so I never really had the chance to converse with guys, and I don't really know how to talk to them. And I am 17 years old if that helps :)
1) Is it weird for a girl to just randomly walk up to a guy in public and just start a random conversation??
2) How come if a guy sees a "hot girl" he'll just go straight up to her and talk to her, but if he sees a nice girl who's a little overweight he won't talk to her?
Ok I think that's it. I've never had a boyfriend (unfortunately) and I wanted to know how to go about meeting new people. Thanks a lot. (link)
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before i answer these questions, let me first say that the best places to meet new guys (or friends in general) of substance are in classes, clubs or extracurricular activities, as corny as that sounds. having something in common like that automatically sets up a conversation. that said...
1) yes and no. don't walk up to a guy in the mall and ask if he likes apples, at the risk of looking mentally challenged. DO approach a guy in public and tell him you like his shirt/jeans/hair/other and ask where he bought them. see, if you aboslutely have to approach a random guy in public, at least find something to seize on to start a conversation that isn't random. like, if you see a hot guy in a bookstore checking out a book you love, walk right up and recommend it to him. the less random you can make the encounter, the less awkward it will be.
2) you answered your own question, babe...if a guy thinks someone's hot, he'll approach her. life isn't fair, but men also can't read minds. how would a guy know the overweight girl is nice from across the room? that aside, just because the opposite sex isn't lining up at your door doesn't mean they're not interested. i've only been approached by one or two random girls in my life, which means i've had to do most of the initiating myself.
sad fact it is, but everyone judges by looks at least when they first lay eyes on someone. your best bet is to be as smart and charming as can be and not rely on your looks (pretty as they may be) to win him over. yes, it is possible to become sexier or more attractive to someone physically without changing your looks.
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Rating: 5
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Thanks so much for the great advice.
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