Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma
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Age: 19
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Heyy, I wanted to ask you a question b/c you have good ratings, and you're a guy.
Let me tell you the reason I'm having a problem first: I go to a mostly girls school and so I never really had the chance to converse with guys, and I don't really know how to talk to them. And I am 17 years old if that helps :)
1) Is it weird for a girl to just randomly walk up to a guy in public and just start a random conversation??
2) How come if a guy sees a "hot girl" he'll just go straight up to her and talk to her, but if he sees a nice girl who's a little overweight he won't talk to her?
Ok I think that's it. I've never had a boyfriend (unfortunately) and I wanted to know how to go about meeting new people. Thanks a lot. (link)
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Hey! Thank you so much for trusting me with your question. I am always glad to help. Going to an all girl or an all guy school makes things very tough when conversing with the opposite sex. Some guys just naturally have the ability to speak to women, some don't, same thing goes for girls, some have the gift, some don't. To answer your first question, no, it's not weird to strike up a conversation, it just depends on what type of conversation you start. There are some that will be blatently and obviously weird, that we won't go into, but if you just start on something neutral like "Nice day out today, isn't it?," that leaves alot more "maneuvering" room. If the guy is friendly, he will continue the conversation, if he isn't friendly, or maybe just in a relationship already, he may not respond, or he may be very curt. I don't suggest trying out some random pick-up line, that's for guys to use on girls at bars. It's usually a very stupid, pointless tactic that only really works for the small amount of guys blessed with the gift of "girl-gab." OK, on to the second question. To understand it, you first need to understand the typical modern male mind. Your typical all-american teenage male is a rather shallow breed of mammal. They go for looks, rather than substance, which is something that you obviously have. Ever heard the phrase "Only stupid people are breeding"? Think about all the teenage pregancies you have ever heard of. Probably the hot girl who decided to get a little too wasted, or just a little too out of control, the hot guy comes in, nine months later, all you have is a much too young mother and father who's lives are now ruined. Lots of guys are just out to get some with the hottest girl they can get. Its a bragging rights competition. Luckily, not all guys go in for it. There are still nice guys in the world. Not to toot my own horn, but yours truely here thinks that the blonde Barbies of our generation are ruining the genetic pool, while girls of great substance are too few to help keep the pool from going blonde. Sucks for us guys who look at more than the girl's body. Being even a little overweight in this day and age is like the kiss of death, unless you are a football player or someone really rich. We can thank no one else but the marketing and entertainment industries, who, because of them, we have girls getting boob jobs and liposuction instead of money for graduation presents. Hollywood has us believing that girls have to be pencil thin with at least 'D' cup breasts, and guys have to be completely ripped, toned, and athletic. Alot of the nicer guys aren't completely tone, ripped, and athletic. They may stumble over their words in front of the girls that they like. I know that from experience, I am not exactly the pinnacle of physical fitness, yet I maintain an active social life, even while I too am still single. I've had two girlfriends since the age of fifteen, haven't had one since before the age of 18, and I'm turning 19 in less than a month. The best advice I can give you is just to be as open and friendly as you normally are. Be yourself, some lucky guy will see how great you are! Good luck, and email me if you need anymore help.
Best Wishes, Jordan-IronChefRogue1@aol.com or jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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