Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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Well let me start from the very begining. I have a sister who is older then me and she was very shy and didnt have alot of friends growing up especialy no guy friends! Well I am different and I have more guy friends then I do girls! My parents are really picky though and they dont want me to like hang out with guys especialy if its one on one. They say they cant trust me and that I wear to much make up. Well I dont wear to much and If I didnt wear makeup I wouldnt go out! because I am very self concious. Also I like guys and how the heck and I suposed to have a relationship if my parents wont let me! I mean im 14 Im going into highschool and obviously I want to date! I feel like sense my sister wasnt like me they are being way to hard on me! I mean all my friends get to hang out with guys even if parents arent home! I mean I know thats not acceptable and I wouldnt do that I always make sure parents will be there! but it seems like thats not good enough for my parents! PLEASE HELP ME! I DONT LIKE MY PARENTS THIS WAY! (link)
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Alright, first off, your parents probably think you are growing up way too fast. I have to admit, I dont see tons of fourteen year old girls running around with make-up on, much less many fourteen year olds in high school. Second-just because you are in high school does not give you carte blaunch to start dating. Any parent who leaves their fourteen year old daughter at home or anywhere with a guy, regardless if the parent knows them or not, is asking for so much trouble. From my experience, younger girls like to date older guys. Ive met plenty of high school girls who will only date college guys. Now that I am a college guy, I am still not going to take advantage of that playing field. Anyway, your parents probably have a good point in not allowing you to date. You are still young, and may not realize all the potentially BAD situations you could get in to. Many girls your age are still going through that phase of "oh, we talk on line all the time, so, like, yeah, he's my boyfriend." Truth be told, not many teenagers under the age of eighteen or nineteen really knows what a TRUE relationship is. I started learning at fifteen, but I was a super mature fifteen year old, and so was my girlfriend. We lasted over a year, and almost got back together last summer. You need to take your time with the whole "dating" thing, it's not something that should happen overnight. You have to get to know the guy first, really communicate, and by that I mean VERBALLY. Online conversations give you no verbal clues, like tone, pronunciation, etc. Sixty percent of all communication is non-verbal. Thirty percent is in our vocal tone, what emotions show through and what unspoken hints come throught. Online communication is the last ten percent, the spoken words. What people say is NOT always what they mean. It takes time, talent, and skill to be able to read all the subtle messages that people give off by how they say something or the way their bodies move or react. Ok, enough rambling-I will cut to the chase for you. You need to stop worrying about dating and worry more about school. The grades you make now WILL affect what colleges will accept you. I made good grades, so I am now a proud Oklahoma State University Cowboy (Go Pokes!). Any relationships you start at this early an age can end up severly in the longer run. You may not like your parents this way, but I guarantee you, if not now, it will happen later. More than ninety percent of U.S. teenagers find some beef they have with their parents between the ages of 13 and 16. I had mine around your age too. I didn't accept my adopted parents as my real parents. Looking back, I realize it was just a phase, which is what YOU are going through. Your parents will, nine times out of ten, have your best interests in mind. They know much more about relationships than you do, and they will find out if you are sneaking around with guys behind their backs. That said, focus on school and friends. Guys are more complicated than you realize. Good luck.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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Rating: 5
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I think you may have missed the part where I said that I have more guy friends then I do girlz..
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