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Location: East Texas
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Age: 19
Member Since: July 15, 2005
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So I’m engaged to be married in one year. I was raised Christian and although I don’t go to church or anything any more my I do still believe. My fiancé is an atheist. It’s really important to me (and to my family) to get married in the church but he says that would be ‘compromising his beliefs’ and doesn’t want to. I don’t care if we never step foot in a church again but my uncle is a priest and I can’t tell him that he can’t preside over my wedding! I’ve always known and respected that we don’t feel the same way about religion but I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy but I don’t know what to do about the wedding. Any advice? (link)
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This is a hard subject to compromise over, so you might try the whole "it has been my dream to get married in a church" thing, guilt trip him into it. It's not the best way, but I have known some hard headed atheists who would not compromise or change anything even with accurate evidence behind it. That's one way. If he really cared about you, he would do this for you instead of looking out for himself. If this was the women I was spending the rest of my life with, I would compromise my beliefs to make her happy. It's only one day that you will both be happy during and you will always remember. When you get old you won't be thinking "oh that was the day I compormised my beliefs," instead you will be thinking, oh remember that day it was so great and you looked so beautiful. He needs to recognize that you are going to be together for the rest of the your lives and that this is something you have dreamt about since you were little and that it will break your heart for this dream not to come true. I don't think i helped any, but maybe you enjoyed reading my post. "God is good, all the time." God Bless
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Thank you. I do think he will do it for me. I really just feel bad that I'm 'making' him.
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