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Hi. I am a 31 year old life coach and professional writer and the mother of a beautiful 6 year old little boy. I believe in the kids and teens out there today and I want to be of service in any way I can. I know what it's like to be young and not want to talk to parents about problems. I specialize in relationships of all kinds and parenting. I also am very well versed in health and beauty. I will always respond with sincerity and to the best of my ability. I will always be honest, even if that means I may tell you something you don't want to hear but need to. I am all about inspiring the best from people I come in contact with so that's the approach I take with everyone.

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I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months. His ex-wife was always calling and telling him that she missed him and wanted him back. She doesn't respect our relationship at all. Now she wants to pretend to be nice and he doesn't understand why I question her sencereity. I have a lot of anger towards her and I don't like feeling the way I do when I hear her voice or her name mentioned. I was never aloud to say anything to her or he would of been upset with me. How can In deal with the feeling I have for her. I don't like that she gets to me. Please help I'm at the end of my rope and I'm trying really hard to make this relationship work.

Basically, the more you think of the things you don't like about her - the more she will show them to you. Instead of automatically deciding she has bad intentions by being nice, even though she may - give her the benefit of the doubt. He will not want to be with someone who is full of anger -no one does. Even though it's true the things you think about her and you may have facts to back it up - at the end of the day you feel horrible so you are not doing yourself or your relationship any good. Be supportive of him. Remember the things you like about him and why you are in this relationship to begin with. Make a list of his positive aspects - what's great about him. Then make a list of what things you can remember about your relationship - things that have happened that you really loved. Good memories. You will have to work to release the anger towards her - but if you can begin by giving her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she does really love him - what if you were in that situation...etc. It doesn't mean he loves her - but I can absolutely gaurantee you the more you push against this woman and his relationship with her the more it will be in your face.

Let me know how you are in 2 weeks after doing this. Don't focus on what is - becasue that is changable, right? Focus on what you want and what you like and pull yourself up emotionally. If you need more ways to do this, just email me.

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(Rating: 5) Your advice is good but thyis is something I've trying to overcome for a long time. Jealousy eats me up inside. I know that he doesn't want her back. I just haven't learned how to not let ex's get to me. I do trust him it's just hard when she is just really vulgar and says things to him that should not even be thought about let alone said.She has some problems and has some kind problem with keeping her legs closed.
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