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I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers. (link)
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You wait. Don't be with either. You have feelings for a guy who doesn't return them, and another guy has feelings for you, but you don't have the same for him. You should be with the one you want to be with, not the one you have to settle for (yes, that's a harsh way to put it, but it's the truth).
Spend time with them both. You may find that your feelings for Elijah develop into more, or that Zach's feelings for you develop. Don't commit to either, just be friends until your mind is made up.
"Don't wait for a person you can live with; wait for the person you can't live without."
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Rating: 5
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Thank you for your imput. Very wise words. This is one of the best advice I've gotten. Thank you.
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