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Okay, so friendship questions are rare for me. This is gonna be long. If you have a problem with that, stop reading right now.
I'm really kind of scared. My best friend, short of sister, I think, is addicted to this guy.
Problem is, they never dated. She liked him, but he didn't like her. Then she got over him, and he liked her.
Then she decided to unget over him.
He's a possessive asshole. He's basically "claimed" her and talks about their married future, and she goes with it, considering him hers as he considers her his.
The worst thing is, though, all her life, her family has considered her the "screwup", so all she's known is displacement and pain. She's longed for real love her whole life, even the "parent" kind of love. Not just the husband/wife love.
I don't even know how to explain this. She thinks he unconditionally loves her.
I have unconditional love. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he loves everything about me, even my flaws, and wouldn't change me.
This guy, however, he's used her, emotionally abused her, hurt her more than anything, and he's even like, haunting her dreams. He tried to change her. Get her to dye her hair blonde, change her clothing style, criticized everything...
I'm just afraid she's going to end up with him and cause herself more pain.
She's created an idea of him for herself. Things he does, she's given examples...I can see that he's only doing these things because he gets something out of it. He gets a person to possess. Someone to own. I hate him for what he's doing to her, but she won't let me talk sense into her.
I can't talk to him because he doesn't like me anyway.
I don't know what to do about this. This girl is seriously like my little sister. I want to protect her from him. Not from all guys, just from him because I know he's bad news.
He tried to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend with him, and to tell me that if he "really" wanted me, I could be his in a heartbeat, because he's just that good with women, which sickened me from the start. I don't understand what she sees in him. Fine. Whatever, I can deal with that.
I can't deal with him hurting her and making her think he's the last person out there for her (she's had bad luck in relationships).
On top of it all, she's afraid her parents are going to make her move, and they're not sending her to college next year, which is where she should be.
What do you think I should do? I mean, I can't really DO anything. What can I say?
-Siren =(

wow.. this is a tough situation..but i think in a thing like this..your friend probably isnt going to listen to you if you try talking to her..because if your in love with someone..you dont want to believe things about your lover that may be true..maybe you could talk to her boyfriend, i mean i know you said he doesnt like you, but just be like "i dont care if you dont like me, but i need to talk to you, don't treat my friend like this, she is like a sister to me, and if you keep hurting her, shes going to end up being miserable, and if you guys were actually in love, you would want the best for each other, not the worst. and if you do not stop, one day i will catch you in the act of cheating or doing those horrible things you do.." or something along the lines of that..maybe even you can talk to your boyfriend about it, and tell him to talk to the guy, maybe even you can talk to her parents and tell them that he is doing nothing good for her and is making her miserable and she wont listen to you so maybe she will listen to her parents..

as for the college situation, if she is 18, she doesnt have to move with her parents, and i mean she should try talking to them and be like \"i really want to go to college and get a further education (in the department where she wants to learn) and if you would want what is best for me, you would want me to go to college\"

*i really hope i helped..if you ever need anything just ask me a question..or talk to me on aim..devilishd19

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(Rating: 5) You gave me ideas. However, he's not even her boyfriend, and she's 17, which sucks for her. Lol. Thanks =)
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