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well, some of my friends arent exactly as pretty as me or as skinny. alot have trouble with guys. and alot of guys like me... my friends sometimes say things to me like "everyone likes you and ive never even had a boyfriend. you've had like a million. im never gonna find anyone!" i dont know what to say to them! i can tell them that they will find someone someday but that doesnt make them feel much better. sometimes they'll say: "im so fat. i wish i was skinny like you" and ill say your not fat! and they'll say "well i dont look like you do i?" i feel so bad! what do i say??

First of all, you can't let them think that stuff. They're putting themselves down and comparing themselves to you. They might be fishing for compliments, but I doubt that. Instead of just disagreeing with them, tell them that you're flattered and appearances shouldn't matter. Our society today has come to a point where we are so superficial that some of us can only judge people by their looks. Instead of saying "You're NOT ugly" try saying something like "You ARE beautiful." If they continue to criticize themselves, tell them how you feel everytime they compare themselves to you. It must be uncomfortable, and you should be able to be comfortable with your own friends! Good luck!

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(Rating: 5) thanks! you really helped!

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