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okay. i am very deperate for help right now so any advice you give me i will rate you a five.

i have a very hard time admitting this. but my dad is in fact an alcoholic. he is always in denial, meaning that he doesnt think he has a problem and gets mad when you confront him in any way about his drinking. me and my mom are the only people aware of this in my imediate family. my little siblings haven't a clue. my mom has threatened divorce even though she does not mean it, just to make him stop. it is an embarrasing thing and he is very selfish. i feel like i am babysitting him all the time to make sure he isnt sneaking in the garage or the side of the house. i need help confronting him, like i need to really hit him hard this time to make him think twice about doing it again.

another thing, i recently found a few bags of marijuana that belong to him that he gets from a friend at work i am assuming.... my mom does not know about this, and i am too scared to tell her because then i definately see divorce in the future. my sister and brother would be devastated, and i probably would too i mean he is my father and i love him. what do i do about the marijuana situation?

thanks alot.

Wow. That is alot to handle. How old are you?? ANyways my dad is an alcoholic as well. He was diagnosed with sclorosis of the live when i was in eight grade. Now i am in 12th. But ya thats a tough pill to swallow. I know what your going through...although my dad was/is pretty blatant with his situation. If i were you...and my dad wouldn't admit it ..you should really hit him where it hurts. For example, since your his daughter im sure that he will respect your feelings. You need to confront him and tell him how you feel and that your friend's father was "diagnosed with sclorosis" and that disease is fatal. And that you are concerned that if he keeps doing what he is doing that it will jeopardize the family...and it might reflect on you as a person. Meaning that you might change for the worse because of the fact of the family breaking up. But don't argue with him about anything. IF you could cry in front of him and just tell him you love him...that would be sincere and i feel that he would definitely think twice before he took the next swig of boose. Fight him with love. When he gets mad at you or anything just say that your srry and that you love him. No man wants to come to the realization he might lose his daughters love...because that is something they charish most. I hope this helps...and do somewhat of the same thing with the marijuana situation...except ask him how he would feel if you started stealing his stash and giving it to friends and smoking as well. DAYUM! THATS LONG! lol anyways i hope you can use this to your advantage. GOOD LUCK! oh and visit my profile if you would like i just made this thing. http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Ghelp

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much this was the best help so far. btw, im 14.
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