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ok... so i know this is going to be one of the dumbest things you've ever heard... but... my best friend.. idk she doesnt make me feel very good.. she does things that cause me to cut myself.. and she steps all over me.. i bend over backwards to try and make sure she's happy and everything.... but she just doesnt seem to appreciate me.. i'm a really pure hearted girl.. and it's gotten to the point where she could slap me and say she hated me and i'd still love her.. kinda like when you hear about those guys that beat there wives and they stick arond and dont rat on there husbands.. i know its dumb.. but idk... im not happy in life... she's made me weak and insecure... she swore she hated this girl amanda....those two hated eachother for the longest time... and now its like nothing happened and they're best friends again.... i hate it.. and all of my friends say to just forget my bf because she isn't worth it.. but no one understands how hard that is for me..... i know i shouldnt stick around... but gosh.. its so dang confusing.. please help me anyone!

5's to anyone that helps...... :'(

Hey sweetie, I know exactly what you are going through because I just got out of the exact same situation. How do I feel? Pretty relieved. Life will never be the same.

Basically, you have to make a choice that will change everything. It might hurt at first, maybe not. Sounds like you are just as loyal to her as I was to my best friend. I tried to stake it out for as long as I could but it ended up catching up with me. I turned to my mom & she gave me advice that I want to share with you...

Anyone that makes you feel degraded, hurt, scared, unloved, unappreciated, pushed aside, un-needed, unimportant, or drives you to self harm, they are not worth it. You have to decide whether you would rather live a life free of pain & sorrow without her, or go on living the same troubles WITH her there.

I know you're having alot of trouble making this decisian & that's what keeping you from deciding but you really have to choose. You deserve way better then someone like. I wish I had a friend like you that was that loyal. Anyone would be lucky so I suggest finding someone who will treat you kindly.

Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to ask, I'm here for you ♥.

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(Rating: 5) hey just wanted to thank you for making me realize that i can get through this... i know letting her go isn't going to be easy.. but i'm gonna try really hard... thank you so much. XoXo

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