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Q: Alright, I am 16 and I live with my twin sister, my 19 year old brother, and my mom. She has always been pretty overprotective, especially after my dad died of brain cancer. But recently it has gotten uncontrollable. She makes up stupid excuses so I can't go hang out with my best friend. She acts like she doesn't trust me but when I ask her why she doesn't she doesn't give a reason. I have a feeling that the reason she doesn't want me going places is because she doesn't want me growing up so fast. I am going to be a Junior in High school this year and then I will be graduating in 2007 and going to college. She needs to understand that I am becoming more independent and will be an adult soon. She even went as far as keeping me from getting my liscence until I finally was able to convince her to allow me to get it. If anyone has any advice for me about how I can get my mom to give me more indepedence and actually try to listen to my side of the view.

Your mother has experienced a great loss, and she needs you to be there by her side. You are right, she probably doesn't want you to grow up and leave her. The only way to stop this, is to tell her what you're feeling. She'll understand what she's been doing to you, and maybe will loosen up. Remind her about what it was like to be a teenager, and being excited about new things such as your liscense. Good luck

♥Arielle