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Q: this is a really long story. to start out, were all 14, in 8th grade and catholic. well there its this couple (Anne&Bob). theres a girl(cat) whose a friend of ours...ive never really been able to stand her but i do to be nice. well Bob and i think thats Cat is hitting on Anne in a lesbian kind of way. shes always hugging on Anne (well on a lot of girls but now mostly her) and sitting on her lap and playing with her hair.shes kissed her on the cheek before but she never kissed her bf.. she dumped him last b/f for no appereant reason, shes constantly telling Anne that she loves her (anne thinks its just "sisterly" love) but basically, Bob and i have decided that she is bi but isnt going to come out anytime soon b/c her family is full of strict catholics...how should we/i approach Anne about this? Anne and Bobs relatioship is changing b/c anne feels like she needs space after being crowded by Cat all day long. they are good friends and Anne is one of those very emotional type people that is very concerned about being fair and looking at peoples feelings....i just dont want her to get into a situation like that and i doubt her bf would want her to either. btw, anne would never be gay...ive known her about twice as long as Cat. if you have any experience with this please help!
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Well this is definately a tricky situation. After reading your question it's obvious that you are disgusted by how OVERLY affectionate Cat is to Anne. From the way you describe it, it doesnt seem like it, but it is a possibilty that Cat just thinks Anne is a super amazing person and thinks she's really great in a friend sorta way and just wants Anne to know how much she likes her. It is of course possible that Cat just can't hide her true feelings about Anne. My best suggestion would be to try to talk to Cat. Kinda hint(not too obviously) in regular conversation that you have nothing against bi people, and that if one of your friends was bi you wouldn't care, but you would want to know. in a few weeks when you and her are both on good terms and in good moods, get her to talk to you alone, and just nicely calmly say to her something like "hey Cat, i'm not accusing you or anything, but I've noticed you've been acting very affeciationly toward Cat... It doesn't bother me if you are, but i just need to know. if you are, i'll be here for you and keep it a secrect if you want me too, but are you bi??" remain very calm and let her know it is ok if she is bi, and you will still be her friend. If she says no... ask her why she is all lovey dovey to Anne. If she isn't bi, at least you'll get an explaination for her behavior. Just know nothing will get better if you don't talk to her!! I hope this advice can help you, but if you need anything else, or more suggestions feel free to ask me another question or AIM me at SqueakyShoes567
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