My Name is Megan. I live in a small town in Ohio! I am 13/f 5'3 and 120 pounds. I have a twin and an older and younger sisters. I was a cheerleader for 7th grade and i am now an 8th grade cheerleader. If any of you guys need help i am good with all around about any thing, love life, family,entertainment, sports, and if i dont know it i will research it to the best of my knowledge into finding it out. I am no expert but i do know a thing or two about life. I will be more than welcome to help you..Thanks
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I met Mary, 20 years old, about 10 months ago. We hit off and started dating. It’s been about 7 months now. Her family life is a complete mess. Her parents divorced a little over a year ago. Now, her mom hardly returns her calls and her dad quickly got re-married and now lives about 2 1/2 hours north of her. With his new life he rarely makes time for her either.
After dating for about 4 months, she visited her doctor. Her stomach was bothering her. The doctor discovered a cyst. She had tests done and that day she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer – stage one.
She refused to have a hysterectomy and started chemotherapy. After 3 weeks of chemo, its stage 3. The doctor tells her it’s terminal. She tells her dad. He asks her not tell anyone on his side of the family. Meanwhile, he never calls her to ask how she’s doing. As far as her mom goes – she hasn’t told her yet.
Three weeks ago, Mary’s doctor said she needed to stop chemo because her organs were swelling as a result of her diabetes. At this point the cancer had stopped spreading. Last week she blew off her doctor’s appointment because she needed to work to make rent. She was scheduled to restart chemo. Mary works full-time on her feet. She smokes and has a glass of wine now and then. None of which her doctor agrees with. So as a result, the cancer has started to spread again.
Watching her suffer has taken a lot out of me. More than half the week she sleeps at my apartment. And on cue in the evening her pains skyrocket. Lying in bed she twists and shakes until she passes out. All I can do is hold her. She wakes up and the pain goes another round or two until she finally falls asleep.
I don’t agree with how she’s handling her sickness. Missing doctor appointments, smoking, and drinking. Just the other day she was planning to go to the beach with friends. I told her she’s not suppose to go in the sun while on chemo; that’s when I found out she missed her doctors appointment earlier that day.
I want to be there for her, but as a friend. I do all I can so that she feels like a beautiful woman. But I might just have to just walk away. I feel like I need to do something to get her to take this illness more seriously. I’m frustrated.
What do you think?
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Wow, Thats not only heart breaking but a scary thing to think about. Have you tryed talking to her? Maybe you should tell her how much you want her to stop smoking and drinking and offer to take her to appointments and if she cant pay rent maybe she cn stay with you so you can watch her and make sure shes okay... Maybe if you would like you guys could even have seprate beds so her twists and shakes dont bother your sleeping, Also Why dont you go, I love you soo much nd it would hurt so much to loose so please if any one for me, and stuff and if she gets better maybe you and her could go vist her family? or maybe if you dont think she will get too angry call her mom so she can discuss the twhole thing with her.. Im kinda young according to your age so you might want someones older opoion..
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Thank you for your kind words. I've talked to her about the smoking. Actually, when I find them I break them in half. Tuff Love – you know? About speaking with her mom, well, that's over bounds for me. I fell like there's a back story with her and her parents that she's not willing to devulge yet. You see, that's it. She thinks she can do this on her own but she cannot. No one can or should. All I can do is make her laugh and tell her she's beautiful. You are wise and I very much appreciate your insightful advice. :)
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