Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
I love cats and sailing and get to the beach as often as I can.
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Age: 39
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Here in the past 2 months one of my friends mother died. And as you know. Sunday was mothers day. and it was just so bad. and she kept wanting to talk to me about it. and i wanted to talk to her about it. but i didn't know what to say! And she still talks about it every day. and she carries her mom's picture around. and i think this is just making it worse. but i want to talk to her about her mother. and i want to be able to comfort her. but i don't know what to do or say. I've told her that any time she needs a mother figure. that my mom is always avalible. but she just says it's not the same. and i somewhat understand. but i just don't know what to do. any suggestions? (link)
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One of the nicest things you can do is just listen.... ask her to tell you about the best time she ever had with her mom, or what was the funniest thing her mom ever did, or even if you tell her that you thought her mom was funny when she did such and such. Lots of people think that when the funeral is over, it's all done with, and it's not! I lost my dad in 1979 at 14 yrs old and still carry his picture and I'm still so happy when someone says, remember when your dad took us all sailing and tells me a funny story about him.
I know it may seem uncomfortable but all the strange feelings are completely normal. You can help her immensely by not just ignoring her loss.
My sympathies go out to you and your friend.
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