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My dad is a jerk..we'll just start off by saying that. He and my mother divorced 5 or 6 years ago. I have two younger sisters and a younger brother. Me and one of my sisters stopped switching back and forth between my mom and dad and decided just to live with my mom, because we both STRONGLY dislike our father. My mom is a single mom, works her butt off everyday, and has to pay for EVERYTHING for anything that all four of us kids need. My dad refuses to talk to her because he thinks that my mom is just out to get money from him..but the way i see it is, why wouldn't he want to help pay for his children? Yeah, he pays child support, but he lied about his income to the judge, so we don't even know how much he is SUPPOSED to be paying. It wouldn't even be that bad if he just pitched in once in a while for things like my driver ed course, or a yearbook, or my theatre banquet ticket! But of course he doesn't.."THOSE THINGS AREN'T NECCESSARY!" ...maybe not but they still are important to me, and a good father would help pay right? Another thing is, me and my mom just found out that when they got divorced, he hid the 20,000 dollars that was in their retirement account, so 10,000 of it belongs to my mom, and that would solve SO many financial problems. My dad has been hiding this for 6 years AND he had the NERVE to get married to a lady who also had 4 children!!! HE WON'T EVEN PAY FOR HIS OWN!! HOW IS HE SUPPOSED TO PAY FOR 8 KIDS AND A WIFE?? I guess waht my question comes down to is, what do i do? How do i ask him to help pay when i know he is going to think im just trying to get money out of him, because i don't even live with him. I'm lost and angry and I wish he wasn't my dad, but he is and i have to face that. I just need to know how I should approach him with out getting my mom in trouble or myself. Please help me.

Natalie

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