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-I tell them the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
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hi i've been with my boyfriend for quite a few years now, but unfortunately, everyday i start to think to myself that i should leave him. why is because every single time we get into fights, he never is willing to stay and work it out. he either hangs up the phone and ignores my phone calls/messages or says "just drop it" with an attitude. he also calls me names like bitch when he loses his temper, and personally, i've had enough.

but as you can imagine, i have grown emotionally attached to this guy. i fell in love with who he once was, a sweet, considerate, man. but now it's like i don't know who he is anymore and lately it's just the only thing i can think about is how the quality of our relationship is slowly crumbling beneath us.

i personally do want to call it quits, or at least take a break from each other for a little while, but he refuses. he says things like he can't live without me, and if i leave him he'll kill himself. in a sense i feel that i'm forced to stay in this relationship because i don't want to live knowing i made someone commit suicide over me.

it's a really sticky situation, and i don't know what to do anymore. i do love this guy, but i feel as though i'm falling out of love with him for the person he has become.

please help...

What you just described is an abusive relationship. He's not physically abusing you, but emotionally. He put you in a situation where you want to leave him, but you can't because he's threatened to do something horrible if you do. That's his sick little way of keeping you.

As hard as it is, you're going to have to leave him. I know you don't want to be 'responsible' (even thought it's not your fault) in case he isn't bluffing, but you just have to do what's best.

I suggest telling someone who can do something about it... a guidance counsellor or a parent or anything. Try not to tell your friends, as gossip about that kind of thing spreads fast.

I wish you luck.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for your concern. i just found out that he's alright. i'll take your words into consideration
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