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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.
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Ok, I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 years (I know, quite a long time!) I met him at uni and now I am in my final year at uni and he is working miles away. We have never been apart like this before as we were always together at uni.
I have mixed feelings about how much longer I want the relationship to go on for. Whenever we speak on the phone he says something stupid or puts me in a bad mood and makes me unhappy.
I feel I want some time to be young free and single especially as I have been witht the same guy for such a long time. Surely these signs mean it won't last??
Also, I went for dinner with some friends of my flatmate and I met this guy who I found really attractive.
I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but why am I thinking of this other guy all the time when I should be thinking about my boyfriend?
We all went out last night to a club and he was there. He walked me home. Nothing happened but it was so nice to have some attention from someone else and for some reason he made me feel more wanted than my boyfriend does.
Help!! I am so frustrated I don't know what to do! Even if anything did happen, this guy goes back to Australia at the end of May.
Thank you so much if u do reply - i really appreciate it and will give you all 5's! x
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Don't worry, what you're feeling is perfectly normal. The feeling that you want to be single again doesn't imply that it won't last, but perhaps your relationship with your boyfriend is starting to get a little boring. As for being flattered, every girl loves to be flattered. Just so long as you know the limits, you're fine. And for thinking about other guys, don't feel like you're limited to thinking about your boyfriend 24/7. It's ok to find someone else attractive, and acknowledge that feeling, but keep it at that.
The reason you feel this way is because you've been with your boyfriend for so long, and now since you don't spend time with each other as often, you miss feeling loved and cared for now that he's far away, and you're starting to consider your options. You just feel isolated is all. Also, because he's been making you feel unhappy lately (the distance is probably unbearable to him and he takes it out on you), you're emotions are taking it's toll on you where you form a grudge against your boyfriend for saying those things, and then you start to cultivate thoughts such as "why is he treating me like this? a good boyfriend wouldn't do that." Then these thoughts lead to thinking about other people...
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly three years, and I get flattered when guys give me attention as well. However, I would never cheat on him because I love him a great deal. I've had the same feelings that maybe I want to depart from my boyfriend to pursue the single life, but what has kept me with him are his great qualities like commitment, loyalty, honesty, and he's really sweet. Think about this, how many other guys can you find like that out there?
Hope this helps!
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Thank you that was some of the best advice ive ever got-keep up the great advice column x
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