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I just finished crying, letting it all out. All because of my parents. I'm making 14 very soon now, but when I was 12, I broke my virginity with this guy, and my parents told him not to call at all and not to come over. I admit, he was a bad influence, and he didn't care about me. But I learned so much from that. After that happened, I have been through numerous realationships, lasting anywhere from a week to 10 months. I matured very, very fast too. I have learned about all kinds of guys during that time, and I don't trust ANYONE now.I am currently in a serious relationship with a guy in his late 20s. He treats me so good. Never says a bad word to me. He says he's still shocked at how I am so mature for my age and says he's never met anyone as "real" as me before. The thing is, we can't go anywhere together. And I'm tired of letting good guys who're interested have to pass me up because my parents don't know me and think I don't know anything. I'm not saying I know it all, but I have been a street girl, and I know what it's like. i don't want that. I'm ready to settle down with one person. No cheating. And my age is what everyone looks at. Tonight I couldn't even go to a fair because "I'm too young to be out at night with 3 other girls." My parents don't know me. They don't know ANY of the things I have been through. I want to know how I can tell my parents that I feel too sheltered? It's not just that. My parents don't seem to understand that if they get me a cell phone, then they can stay in touch with me no matter where I am. They always try to keep me home. They won't even let me go to a high school dance, and I'm going there now. How can i tell them that age is anything but a number, and it's my maturity that counts? I'm sorry you had to read all that, but my life is getting very miserable, and I don't know what to do. I'm thinking a counselor...but I don't know. Please help and thank you.


Oh, and sorry if you misunderstand the part where I say i can't go anywhere with the guy in his 20s. I know why I can't go anywhere with him, it's illegal, but I can't go ANYWHERE with any boy, no matter what age. Many, many, endless scores of boys have asked me out to skating rinks and bowling alleys and three asked me out to the fair tonight. But I can't go because I'm "13".
Thanks again.

hey hun okay to me you sound very mature for a 13 year old i have to say because at 15 i know i dont think like that lol...anyways alright lets get to it. i would highly say talk to your parents about all this. sit them down and be like mom, dad can i please have a word with you guys...i dont know if you know this or not but just because i'm 13 i kinda been through a lot of things that many 13 year olds haven't. i know i'm young but the thing is that i'm mature... ever since what happened i learned alot from that mistake and mature very quickly. and see what they say. do they know that you are in a serious relationship with a 20 year old? then you have to look at things from their poin of view too...they might decided that you can't go out with a guy is that they dont want you to get hurt again from before you know? they've become a bit more protective because they love you and dont want you to be harmed. definitly talk to them about what you told me if you feel comfortable enough to and see what they have to say. i'm not the best at this but my parents are the same way and i'm 15. they are just very protective because who knows your friend can be trying to hurt you. let your parents know who your going to hang out with and fill them in on things and on top of that show them that you are mature enough to handle things too. like i said i'm not the best at this but i hope i helped you out at least a bit. if you need anything else or something let me know. my inbox if open for you! lol Take Care hun. hope everything goes well! x3 SweetStar.

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(Rating: 5) you are good at this! thanks so much
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