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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular. However, you can ask me anything. I believe in the value of honesty and I will do my best to be ethical, fair and genuine. xoxoxoxo
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Hello there.
Okay, well firstly I'm very annoyed that I didn't use a comma after my "Hello", but I don't think it looks right, so I'm not putting one in... Secondly, this is what my problem is. I have a hella lot of inner conflicts with myself, and I often speak to myself.
I don't consider speaking to yourself an actual problem, because it's rather normal, just most people deny it as it makes them look "weird", I personally don't care. But I am annoyed at the fact that I argue with myself a hella lot, I get annoyed at the slightest things and I try to purposely contradict myself when I'm bored to make my life seem more amusing and cause problems.
I'm turning my life into a soap opera for the fun of it, and when a real problem does arise, I flip it over, turn it inside out and make it all the more worse.
I *could* figure this one out myself, but I'd probably give myself the wrong solution just so I have another problem that I can make a larger problem out of, then I'll contradict the whole thing by denying ever having *any* problems AT ALL...
Okay, I made this longer and more complicated/confusing than I could've imagined, but again, help would be rather nice. And don't give me a lame ass answer like "seek help from your GP" because I'm not gonna and I want a REAL answer.
Apologies and I appreciate you wasting your time. Merci beaucoup.
Dear Mind,
First of all, talking to yourself is quite normal. The NOT normal thing is thinking that it isn't normal. When people say it makes them look weird, they are probably trying to get your approval, or vice versa. However, I see a few red flags in your letter. It sounds as if you may be a little obsessive/compulsive which makes you doubt a lot of things you do or say. But here's a secret. Lots of people feel insecure about things like that.
I think the main problem I'm seeing in this letter is that you say you're turning your life into a soap opera. It's called boredom. There is enough drama in this world than adding to it. Try to join into some groups, go out with friends and if you can't, please see someone whom you can trust and talk to. You can write to me at anytime if you are feeling conflicted. The best advice I can give to you is not to look for drama because believe me, it comes back to you to bite you in the ass and that will make things much worse. Good luck to you.
Linda
(Rating: 5) Wowzers. If I ever have a problem, you'll be recieving it. You actually helped a lot. My mind opened a door called "reality". Merci.