Gender: Female
Occupation: Grad student
Age: 29
Member Since: March 28, 2005
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Last Update: September 14, 2007
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O.k i'm 14/fm and live in Texas. I want a b.f. so badly, but none of the boys at my school like me cause i have braces, and i'm 5ft 2inch. I've had boyfriends, but they were'nt very much true b.f.'s. I'm always told by a friend or something that i'll never have a true b.f. that actually likes me, cause they eather say i'm not pretty enough or i'm not smart enough. My dad says i'm pretty, and i get all a's in my classes. How come guy's still don't like me. Maybe a guy could answer this question for me. Thanx lots.
Love- Lacey P.S. i give people who answer nicely 5's.True answers to please. (link)
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When I was your age, I was 5'2" - 5'3" and overweight with braces and glasses. Add to that that I was shy and did better at classwork than at social interactions, and I didn't have much of a love life. I thought I'd never find a guy who really liked me even when I went off to college.
Now I'm married to a wonderful man who adores me and thinks I'm beautiful, even though I haven't moved closer to the stereotypical view of beauty in this society. Nevertheless, we are together and happy, with the rest of our lives ahead of us.
And I know I'm not the only one: among my friends, there have been a few who had similar lack of dating as teenagers and similar poor self image who have since turned that dating drought around, and without changing who they are.
Meanwhile, I knew a girl in college who always had a boyfriend just about since she had been your age; last I knew, she was still single and dating guy after guy. She briefly tried to do things differently after realizing that the friends of hers who found lasting, solid relationships first were actually the ones who hadn't started dating quite so young.
My point is this: whether you start dating now, or in a couple years, or after you're 20, you're not alone, and there's always a chance that you will meet a guy who appreciates you for you. If a friend tells you you will never have a true boyfriend, how true a friend are they really? And if you decide your worth based on whether you have a boyfriend or match up to others' ideals, how will you know who you are and who you want to be?
Concentrate more on liking yourself and being the best person you can be. Try to do well in your education to make a future for yourself. Do things that you enjoy and that make you feel happy and healthy. Hang out with people who don't put you down so much. And don't worry quite so much about not having a boyfriend now. A healthy, happy relationship can only come after you have a certain degree of that health and happiness, along with a good sense of who you are on your own.
I remember quite well what it felt like to be a teenager and dateless, but eventually things did change for me, when I had a better sense of who I was. And to be quite honest, I'd rather the (imperfect) life I have with the husband I have than to have dated more when I was younger. Sure, I really, really wanted a boyfriend, but I obviously survived without one.
Many guys (and girls) your age are immature and shallow; some will always be that way, but some grow out of it eventually, and when that happens, you just might find someone special who sees you as someone special, and that is something worth waiting for.
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