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Hey everyone. My name is Caleb, and I am a 16 year old male. I really enjoy helping others with problems they may be having. If you have a question about anything at all, just ask, and I'll give you the best advice I can. Thanks.

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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this?

First of all, I am sooo sorry about this. Your boyfriend knew that you didn't mean those words; he knew you loved him, but sometimes in the heat of a fight, we say things that we don't mean. That's all you did; it's not your fault. I can't sit here and honestly say that I know what you're feeling or going through, but I do want to say that I know it's hard, yet you still have to keep on with your life. There will be good things that are going to happen to you, and you just have keep an open mind and live life. This is not something that you will forget, but each day that passes will make this incident easier to deal with. Remember, you did nothing wrong; we all say things like that, but we don't mean it. Things will get better. Take as much time as you need before going back to your regular day-to-day things, but being around others and talking will help you to heal from this in a healthy manner. I hope that my advice helps you out. My best wishes to you and yours. God Bless. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much hun
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