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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.
To conclude, I'm a level-minded columnist who's not likely to judge. Although I may not understand some situations due to lack of experience, I am an understanding person and will do all I can to help. To people who are "not the brightest crayon in the box", I may appear blunt and brutally honest. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.
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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)
anonymous -
Hey, I went through the same thing that you did, so I hope I can be of some assistance.
To put it simply, just drop her. She isn't worth your time, your friendship, nada. Escpecally if she's going to use you and screw you over, she's not worth it.
Although it will bug the crap out of you that she's so PROUD of her conceited self, just leave her be. I know it's hard, but that's the best thing to do. I'm sure if you, her former friend I guess you could say, if you can see this in her, I'm sure others see it too, even if they don't know her. She doesn't realize that she's giving off the wrong impression, and really, she's making an ass of herself without realizing it. Just sit back and laugh at the embarrassment she bestows on herself!
...but if you must, at last resort, if she bugs you that much, make her look stupid. I'm not suggesting using insults, or harmful words, but if she continues to make fun of you and your friend, defend yourselves! Tell her she doesn't know what the fuck she is talking about and to get on with her life cuz you DROPPED HER and have moved on already. Tell her she's too much of a self-centered person to think that you actually care about her anymore. Keep in mind this is a last resort thing...and also tell her this (if you decide to) AFTER you dropped her as a friend. :) Also, don't point fingers or get anyone else involved. Keep it between you two.
As for the other friends that hang around her, or as I'd like to call them, groupies, just let them continue to be friends with her. Although you may have warned them about her, they will have to learn the hard way of "I told you so." They are just too naive to do anything about her behavior, so they continue blindly pursuing a false friendship that really is non-existent.
To conclude, just find new friends. You don't want a stuck up bitch as a friend nor do you want her "yes-men" groupies as friends either. Either way you won't be having true friends.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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thank yous sooo much! :) have a nice day lol
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