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Q: hi, i'm a 19/f and i'm in a little bit of a predicament. i've been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now which is great, but i think that as time passes us by, we're slowly getting into a rut.

like you know when you first date someone you get butterflies and those mushy feelings when you're around them? i know those feelings are temporary, but i feel as if our relationship resembles more of a friendship rather than an intimate bond.

what i'd like advice on is if there is anything i can do to put the spark back into our relationship?

You know what? Relationships aren't always the butterflies & mushiness -- sometimes there's a feeling of comfort that settles in, where you know you are at ease with the other person. So it isn't necessarily a bad thing at all. I think for the spark... go do things together you'd never done before. Be spontaneous, and show new aspects of yourself to you guy. You have to stimulate each other as much psychologically as physically, for it to work.

. Tracy

Rating: 4

thanks, yea i've done almost everything on trying to be romantic. but i'll try to come up with more ideas thanks for the advice

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