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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular. However, you can ask me anything. I believe in the value of honesty and I will do my best to be ethical, fair and genuine. xoxoxoxo
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there are these girls..Paty and jessica. okay well paty and jessica ALWAYS get mad at me for no reason. Dude, and im on these girls basketball team and I fouled one time and i said.."oh i dont rlly care." you no just because it was my first one. and paty goes to me "WELL WHAT THE FREAK...YOU SHOULD CARE." and she wouldnt pass me the ball at all. But this one time at school, i didnt get such a good grade on my socical studies test...(if was a D) & the est was on the whole book *well the stuff we covered* and Jessica comes up to me and goes " (my name) wat did you get? & paty butts in and goes I got an A+ and Jessica goes Me to"...and then they ask me again and i said "no" and then when our teacher wasnt looking they grab my paper and started making fun of me. Please helped
SOrry its so long BUT PLEASE HELP ME *
Sincerly,
crushed/MAD
Ps: there is a ton of more stuff that they have done to make my life miserable
Dear crushed,
Okay, first things first. I would stay as far away from Patty and Jessica as I could get. From your letter, it sounds as if you are socializing with them a little bit. (just a little?) Trying to get their approval maybe? People like Patty and Jessica are a dime a dozen and they are using you to make them feel better about themselves. Don't buy into it. It's not worth the heartache.
It's a funny thing about approval. When you act as if you don't care about it, that's when you get the most. So, if you want to change the reactions of these girls to you, you'll have to have a little self-control and change your own reactions to them. Don't let them see you get mad at yourself. Because that's what's happening. They are playing off of your own insecurity. So, the fact that you didn't get a good grade on your test...you know what you have to do to get a better grade. It's nobody else's business. And certainly not 2 girls that have nothing better to do than to criticize and put down others. The self-control part? This is a doozy....Ignore them.
Good luck sweetie.
Linda
(Rating: 5) thank you very much! u helped me out babes=)