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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular. However, you can ask me anything. I believe in the value of honesty and I will do my best to be ethical, fair and genuine. xoxoxoxo
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Okay, well I am in 6th grade. Me and my best friend have been soo close through elementary school and are families are so close and we even own a beach house togehter. Well, see Through out this month we have started to grow apart. She is trying to be like her older sister (preppiesh) and like that but before she started wanting to be like her older sister she hated the way preps were and that they were retarted and stuff. Well, now she has become a prep and is being someone she isn't. She used to hate this one prep and now she is like trying to be her closet friend. I hate the way she is being. I am hopeing it is just a phase but if it isn't I think we will be spilt up and stuff. I wish I could tell her this but since we are growing apart I don't know what to do. I used do everything to be her best friend because she wanted to end the friendship but now it's different I don't know if I would really care to not be her best friend. I have a boyfriend and since this one night I haven't told her really much about him. I don't know why I want to but then there is something stopping me. I need help. She thinks I don't trust her anymore but I don't know if that is true or not?? Please help!
Dear growing,
You sound like a very intelligent girl and your first line says it best. Growing apart....
People come into your life to help you to grow. When that purpose is served, sometimes you or the other person may move on. Do not be sad about this. This is a good thing. As you get older, you will try all sorts of things and try to be all different ways. This is to help you decide what you like and help you to be comfortable with who you are. Your friend is probably going through this 'phase' right now because she is testing it out. She's trying something different. And that's okay. Believe me, you'll do it too. Think of it as an opportunity to get to know yourself better. In school, begin smiling and being friendlier to others. You will begin to make all sorts of new friends. Act confident and you will eventually feel confident. Fake it until you make it. Please don't be mad at your friend or judge her for trying something different. Be the bigger person and enjoy the fact that you have helped someone else to grow just as she has helped you to grow. You'll do fine!
Good luck!
Lindacht
(Rating: 5) You were so much help thank you!