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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.
To conclude, I'm a level-minded columnist who's not likely to judge. Although I may not understand some situations due to lack of experience, I am an understanding person and will do all I can to help. To people who are "not the brightest crayon in the box", I may appear blunt and brutally honest. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.
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I am very shy and that's affecting my life, I can't find a boyfriend or make new friends because of it but I have good old friends. Can you give me some tips on overcoming my shyness and talking to people?
anonymous -
I was once a wallflower myself, but I found that shyness won't get you anywhere. Realize that sometimes in order to achieve the things you want in life, you're going to have to step out of your comfort zone regardless. For starters, realize that not all people will judge you, and even if they do, who cares about what they think? Especially since judgemental people are the dumb people who can't accept people for the unique person that they are. Second, try to start up conversations with people in class. Ask them about the homework, talk about the teacher, extracurricular activities, etc. For me, it's easier to talk to the people with similar traits that are also quiet as well. I feel that once you start a conversation, it's easier to keep it going compared to other people starting to talk to you. If none of these options seem appealing, try joining clubs outside of school that will include person-person interaction.
As for boyfriends, some guys like shy girls. But if you want to make the first move, just start talking! Talk about anything really, but mainly what I find less awkward is talking about your surroundings. For example, if you're in a pizza shop, you can ask him, "Hey I've never eaten at this place before, do you know what's good to order?"
I hope this helps!
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thanx!
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