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[x][edit] - Since being on Advicenators there have been a lot of repetitive questions and innane ones at that. Because of this, I will not be answering as many questions as I had before. To put it simply, some people need to think for themselves. To learn things in life we have to fall down from our hardships, learn from them, and get to our feet again. People aren't just going to spoonfeed you on how to live your life.
To conclude, I'm a level-minded columnist who's not likely to judge. Although I may not understand some situations due to lack of experience, I am an understanding person and will do all I can to help. To people who are "not the brightest crayon in the box", I may appear blunt and brutally honest. Stupid questions deserve stupid answers.
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21/f Here's the situation my fiancee's aunt (married in) is so annoying I just want to pop her in the mouth. She makes these assumptions about me and then gossips about me. Many people including my fiancee has told me that she thinks i am too "sassy". The problem is no one asked her opinion! I am tired of her lecturing me about things that she thinks are going on but they aren't. example: My fiancee and I disagree like all people do on some things. She says why are yall fighting about things that don't matter! WHAT FIGHT? And she takes people's opinions especially hers for truth.She has good sides but this overshadows the good in her. How do I get past this without knocking her out?!?
anonymous -
The next time she tries to open her yap and blabber about things, show her what's up. Don't yell, don't accuse, don't insult, simply just confront her about her unacceptable behavior!
For example, when she mentions your disagreements, just simply ask her, "Like us, every couple has it's disagreements. I'm sure you and your husband have had your own share, so exactly why are you phrasing it like it's such a big deal?"
If she still opens her yap on mindless blabber, just simply tell her, "It's not your place to criticize me and my fiancee's relationship. We love each other very much, and the least you could do is be happy for us."
In a sense, try to make her feel bad. Make her feel guilty for the way she's been acting. In a sense, make her feel feel stupid at last resort. Make it so it looks like she is out of her mind not knowing what the hell is coming out of her mouth.
Like, "Are you here to know what goes on betweeen us? Do you know every little detail of why we argue? Are you handcuffed to us to know anything? Then who are you to say what's right and wrong? Who are you to criticize something you have little knowledge about? I don't mean to be rude, but stop being ignorant and arrogant."
Good luck! :)
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