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Q: just warning you, this may get long!

last night me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 years were in my room and sleeping. not fooling around, literally sleeping. then my dad comes in and freaks out bitching like we had sex or something.

the situation is that i'm the only girl in the family and they treat me like crap. i do the dishes almost every night, take care of my sick grandma, do the laundry, clean the house, and do well in school yet they still look down upon me like i can't be trusted. i am a very responsible girl and i have had enough of them snooping through my room and checking up on me.

the only possible reason why i think they could be acting like this is that we don't communicate very well with each other, let alone get along. maybe bitching is their way of talking to me? even so, that doesn't explain the overprotectiveness!

my question is what can i do to make them trust me? i feel like i've done everything, all ending in failure.

i used to really HATE them for what they put me through, but when they made an effort to BE NICE things got better. our relationship has improved over the past two of months, but after what happened last night, my grudge against them has returned.

please help, i don't know what else i can do. it seems like nothing is ever good enough for them...

-frustrated
Have a family talk about this. A talk, not a fight, where you sit down and all calmly speak your minds. Maybe you could do one of those things where you pass an object around and whoever is holding it is the only one who can speak. If that doesn't work, look up a family counselor.

thanks for the advice. it would be nice to have a family discussion, but our family isn't really the "close" type...i mean my mom and dad don't say i love you to each other and me and my siblings don't talk to each other much. but i will take your words into consideration. thanks again

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