Q: Okay, lemme give you a little background. I'm 17, and a girl, first off. My boyfriend is 18. We've been together for over 15 months.
In my last relationship, the guy lied to me, and cheated on me, then lied to me about lying to me and cheating on me.
That combined with my mother's constant "He doesn't mean it, words don't mean a thing" kind of spiels involving my boyfriend has made me completely untrusting.
But the problem really, is it's hurting our relationship. I mean, I'm not jealous. I'm not controlling, and we have a great thing going here. I'm just afraid to trust him. There's always this little voice in the back of my head, saying "he doesn't mean it," or "he has some ulterior motive". It's driving me absolutely crazy, this constant dread in the back of my mind that he'll go up to me one day and say "Oh, by the way, I met someone else. Have a nice life."
I mean, most people have the problem that they trust blindly and get hurt, but NOOO. I don't trust at all, and hurt the other person, and I HATE to do that. It's hurting me to hurt him. I love him with every fiber of my being, and I'm sick of being afraid to trust him - to trust anyone, really.
Relationships need to be based on trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. I hate my trust problems, they're kinda...not good.
Anyone have any advice?
