I might be young but i know a lot for my age...all of my friends turn to me for help. i give the best advice for heart related problems but i can try to help you in anything if u ask me too.
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Okay, lemme give you a little background. I'm 17, and a girl, first off. My boyfriend is 18. We've been together for over 15 months.
In my last relationship, the guy lied to me, and cheated on me, then lied to me about lying to me and cheating on me.
That combined with my mother's constant "He doesn't mean it, words don't mean a thing" kind of spiels involving my boyfriend has made me completely untrusting.
But the problem really, is it's hurting our relationship. I mean, I'm not jealous. I'm not controlling, and we have a great thing going here. I'm just afraid to trust him. There's always this little voice in the back of my head, saying "he doesn't mean it," or "he has some ulterior motive". It's driving me absolutely crazy, this constant dread in the back of my mind that he'll go up to me one day and say "Oh, by the way, I met someone else. Have a nice life."
I mean, most people have the problem that they trust blindly and get hurt, but NOOO. I don't trust at all, and hurt the other person, and I HATE to do that. It's hurting me to hurt him. I love him with every fiber of my being, and I'm sick of being afraid to trust him - to trust anyone, really.
Relationships need to be based on trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. I hate my trust problems, they're kinda...not good.
Anyone have any advice? (link)
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is there any reason for you not to trust? does he do anything that might be sespicious? if not then you have to take a risk and trust him. Like you said a relationship needs trust or it will not work. You do not want to hurt him so trust him if you think he is not cheating or lieing. Its a risk but everyone has to take it. you are still young...this will happen a lot, if this relationship does not work out. If it doesnt you have to keep your head up high and you need to be looking for the right person. IF he says oh i found someone else have a nice life well that means hes not the one for you. if he cant see how great u are and he cant see your personality then hes not the one for you. you have to understand that your heart will be broken a couple of times before you find the right person but think of it as a journey you have to go through to reach that person. remember everyone goes through this journey..your not alone.
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