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I've been dating this guy for the past 2 years (on and off) and I am completely head over heels for him. Before we started dating he dated this chick named Emily. I just found out that Emily STILL likes him. And I feel kind of uncomfortable about the situation. I mean, it's his ex, which means he's had feelings for her in the past, and maybe now that he knows that she likes him STILL, those feelings will come back. I told him that I was worried about it, and he looked me in the eyes and said "I love you more than anything and everything. Do you believe me?" and I told him yes, I did. and he was like "then why are you so worried?"
and I explained to him about how she was his ex and how that meant he had feelings for her at one point in time. and he was like "I dated her like what? 2 years ago?" and that wasn't enough for me. Just because it was 2 years ago doesn't mean he can't like her again. and he said "Just because I dated her doesn't mean I had feelings for her. I was desperate." (or he said something like that. Very close to it.)
So, what should I do about his ex? I've seen her flirting with him (resting her head on his shoulder, laughing at EVERYTHING he says, but she only actually touches him when she thinks I'm not around.), and I try to ignore it, for my sake and hers. I'm not the fighting type. I try to be nice to everybody. So what should I do? My boyfriend knows how I feel about it, and he's assured me that he's not interested in her. Should I just leave it alone?
anonymous -
Hey, I can relate to this one! I feel the same way about my boyfriend and his ex.
But what my main concern here is why is she still in the picture? I see that they both still hang out with each other, are they still friends?
I understand how you feel, cuz I think the exact same. But if you two have been dating for two years, assuming the on-and-off pattern hasn't happened too much, there's something about you that he loves. With the Emily girl, if he still had feelings for her, you wouldn't be with him today.
I know it's hard to try and ignore the situation for the sake of causing a scene, but trust him. From what I can see, he seems sincere. With Emily, sure she can flirt, but she can't have what you got...her man. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Hope this helps!
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Thank you so much!
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