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I just recently got asked out, and I said yes to make them happy. But, after the first day I'm already feeling crappy. I find myself comparing him to my first relationship, because it was so wonderful. My question is does this feeling ever go away? Can a relationship that starts off with no spark ever get better?
My humble opinion:
First of all, it's usually not a good idea to go out with someone to "make them happy" as you put it. Normally when someone asks you out, it's not just to chill, it's to start a relationship.
An answer to your question:
1) Does that feeling ever go away? Probably, if you have a better relationship than the first one--although if the first one was so wonderful, why are you no longer in it?
2) Relationships don't always need "sparks" to be good ones. So yeah, it's possible for this to get better...but if you're feeling crappy, you might not want to suffer through the waiting process.
Advice which you are under no obligation to follow:
Perhaps you should tell this guy the truth: that you went out with him because you wanted to make him happy. See what he says/thinks, and if you're still feeling crappy, tell him you're sorry and move on.
Good luck!
P.S. Just please remember that guys are humans too, and they do have feelings...dating relationships shouldn't be thrown around lightly.
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I wish you didn't bring up the "if it was so wonderful why is it over". He dumped because of issues he had to work out. But other than that you had some good advice.
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