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It is important to have goals in life. One of my goals is to help others. I love listening to people as they pour their heart out. I love even more when I am able to help them and they truly appreciate it. Seeing a smile on someone else is a greater joy to me, than smiling myself.

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Needless to say, I'm the beast. I'm in love with this great girl (a whole long story) but she's absolutely beautiful. When I first met her, she was a loner as I was, and we connected intellectually. Now, she's a lot more popular, and is hanging out with people just as beautiful as her. She's kinda forgotten about me. I know that looks aren't everything but it is important. I'm trying to improve myself (6' 3" - was 280lbs (used to play football) and now down to 240 lbs.) I can keep losing weight but I have other defects that would require major surgery- I have a huge underbite which to fix they would have to break my upper and lower jaw to re-align it, which means taking bone out of my hip - side effects may include loss of sensation to my lips, tingling down my leg permanent- and not to mention a long time to heal). Also, I had a bad skin infection when I went abroad for a year which left my face scarred and pitted (another surgical procedure to maybe fix). So my question- how far would you go to be more acceptable to the person you love? Thanks for your help >

Don’t refer to yourself as “the phantom” it puts doubt in your mind that you can be loved. As far as the surgery goes, you need to do what you feel is right. If you want the surgery, then go for it. If you are just doing this for one girl, then I wouldn’t recommend you doing that. Honestly you shouldn’t be worrying about all these ‘imperfections’ you will find someone that looks completely past everything you think is wrong. Losing weight is a good idea because of health purposes, but if you are doing this for someone else that needs to change. You should be focusing on your own choices in life. And don’t forget… “There are more fish in the sea!” I hope that you are able to see the true beauty lies within… Good luck with everything and anything that you choose to do.
~Bluentriste

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I am losing for health purposes too, but you know, it doesn't hurt when someone you care about notices too.
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