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Q: I am 41 year old male, at 18 I married my best friends sister who had been date raped at 16 (not by me) and was pregnant. I married her and raised the child as my own. We took in 2 foster children that we later adopted because she could not have any more. Although I was never in romantic love with her we had a good life and wonderful family. 5 years ago she had to have a hysterectomy and died for several minuets they revived her but she has never came back to "herself" I am now more of her caretaker. There is no sex, romance or even adult discussion. I can't leave her nor want to for the fact it wouldnt be right to leave her because of an illness that is not her fault.
I try to release my stress in the gym and other ways and have developed a very good physical appearance and have many friends, but Im so very lonley. I am afraid to have an affair, it wouldnt be right to either woman, but I so long for the touch, caress and conversation with a woman. I dont know where to turn. Whats your Advice?
If I were in your bind I would find another partner. Possibly even divorce your wife but not leave her; I think it's very good of your to continue taking care of her but it's not fair to you. You seem to have a led a good life but it's obvious you need more for you.
MY opinion is that you've been taking care of others for way too long and have been neglecting yourself. We're all human. I think you should finally concentrate on your needs and wants and do whatever you have to do to accomplish that. I really really hope I helped, you seem like a good guy. I hope you find happiness. Good luck.

PEACE

Thank you so much!

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I'm an 18 yr old female and I'm preparing to go to the University of North Texas next fall and I want to major in Fashion Marketing. I've had the same boyfriend since I was 16 so I can help with relationship/love/sex questions. I'm a drummer in an all girl band and I appreciate music so I can help you there also. I'm obsessed with fashion and unique styles so if you ever need a suggestion I'm there for ya. I've always been told that I'm pretty decent at giving advice and I'm curious as to what you need to know, so hit me up.

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