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What can i say? i made an advice column because i read a few of these things and i think it's the dumbest/ most vague advice i've heard. hey man if i can help, i will, but i'll be the first to admit i might not have any idea what you're going through, but i'll tell you that up front.
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first of all, my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, and about three months. i love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me as well. well, last month i was going through his sidekick and i went through his text messages. i wasnt looking for anything particular really, i just wanted to read my texts that i sent him. i came across a message from another female, and i guess he was trying to talk to her. i approached him right away about it. he told me that, yes, he hangs out with other girls, drinks with them, etc. im already aware of that, and thats perfectly fine with me. but then he told me that when he sees a cute female, that he does try to get her number for the challenge, and flirts with them. he said he's never done anything sexual with any other girl, he just likes to get to know other people. i let him know that bothers me and that if he still wants to be with me, he needs to stop approaching other females because thats unneccesary when he already has me. he said he'd stop. i really love my boyfriend, and i used to trust him, but after some of this stuff, its hard to trust him. im kind of stuck, and i dont know what to do because i find myself worrying about him cheating on me and things along that line. so.. i'd like to know, what would you do if you came across this situation. thanks. sorry about the length ;\
okay so you sound like my friend b, she has a boyfriend who goes to parties, and sometimes she cant always go. well he told her "sometimes i flirt with other people there blah blah blah". it's not you at all. and he's not necessarily cheating. he just doesnt want to feel suffocated. so whatever, let him do that. i mean if you choke down now, of course hes going to go out and do things with other girls just to spite you. also... i personally stay out of things like sidekicks or whatever, mainly because, i don't want to know. things have a funny way of exposing themselves, and im not about to go prying and make myself sick worrying. relax. he probly loves you to pieces, but obviously being young doesnt want to feel tied down. you know where the line is, so let him cross it. then and only then, do something. dont scold him for "approaching the fine line." relax. .:.curbside prophet.:.
(Rating: 5) sounds good, thankss ;]