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ok, i've like this guy for a LONG time, 3 years. We've become better friends over the past 3 years since i liked him and i don't know if he likes me. We see each other at school but only in 3rd period but we talk most of the time since it's art. any ideas? i know i DON'T want to tell him how i feel, it would make everything so much harder and more awkward. If you think i should keep flirting, tell me some ideas. I'm 14, and he's 14. I'm a cheerleader and he's a football player but there isn't ne more games b/c the season is over. should i give up on this guy or stick to it?

You've liked this guy for so long, wouldn't giving up now seem like you wasted those three years on that one guy? And obviously if you've liked him so long, you like him ALOT and he's really special and important to you. You should keep flirting with him, but you've gotta send him the signs that you like him. But, as all girls know, guys are pretty much oblivious to the subtle things we try to do. We call that OBS (Oblivious Boy Syndrome). Since you only see him in third period, ask him for help on your art projects or find him at lunch and talk to him about whatever then, or talking to him online, cause you then that's less tense. The only way you're gona be able to truly resolve this is to tell him your feelings straight out. Do it in person, and the worse thing that could happen is he could say no. And if he's been flirting back with you, chances are he likes you too. Putting your heart on the line is really hard, but it will be worth it in the end.

Love and Luck,
AJ

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