Dear Advicenators,
One and a half years ago my brother *Henry* was diagnosed with hemophilia, which means that his blood does not clot normally. If he gets a cut, it's really hard to stop the bleeding. If he loses too much blood, he could die if the blood is not replenished.
Henry and I always liked to spend time together (he's two years older than me). We'd ride bikes to the park and shoot basketball hoops. He couldn't be too active, but he was my best friend and I felt safe around him.
Anyway, he lost a lot of blood one day, and was taken to the doctor for another blood injection. The horrible part was, that the person who had donated that blood was carrying the AIDS virus. The doctor proclaimed that Henry now had AIDS.
Henry is 15 years old, is in diapers, and must be fed through an IV or a tube. He has about 4 months left to live. My entire family is sad, and angry about it. My parents must monitor him all the time, so I always have to get a ride to my volleyball games. All three of us never have extra time, because we are always there for Henry and when he must be hospitalized. I had to drop out of volleyball for him.
Henry has been the butt of the jokes from the kids at school lately. They make fun of the fact that he has been in diapers. They are unaware of the fact that his brain is slowly being devoured, and he can't feed himself. The AIDS is tearing the whole family apart. But luckily, my friends are there to console me, but I always feel resentment towards the cruel kids at school. Can I please have some suggestions on what to do about that?
Anyway, as I am spending my last Christmas with my brother, I have no idea what present to give to him. Could I please have some ideas? I want it to be special and something he'll remember when he goes to Heaven.
Also, how can I comfort / cheer up my parents? They have been having lots of mood swings lately and have been very stressed.
Any input and prayer would be great. Sorry about the length.
Well, I will pray for your brother, and I am very sorry about all this. Don't pay attention to the other kids, because they feed off the reaction you give them. The more you ignore it, the less fun it is for them. For the Christmas present, get a bunch of pictures of you and him, and put them all in one big scrapbook. This will remind him of all the fabulous times in his life that he has had, especially if they are of you and him playing a game or something like that. For your parents, do extra things around the house for them. If your mom is really sad and goes to do the dishes or laundry or some sort of normal chore for her, pitch in and say you'll do it so she can go get some sleep or relaxation. This will make her realize your effort in comforting her. And don't forget about your dad too. Do the same thing for him. They will definetely take notice and smile every time you help them through these times. Like I said before, I will pray for your family and your brother, and that his last few months are cherished. Make it so that he will remember how great his family is. Hope I helped.
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