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Hi, I'm just really out in life to have some fun, trying to keep homework, my life, my friends, my pets and school under control. I wouldn't call me the average teenager because I am quite different with my personal circumstances. But I can honestly say I wouldn't have it any other way (well maybe some changes). I have learnt good and bad things the hard way and watched friends get hurt- I haven't been through it all but I'm working on it. Help you? I'm not sure but lets see how well this advice column goes. Ask Shaylee :)

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I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with my boyfriend lately. I've been with him almost 6 years and we have 1 child together, our 1 year old son. My boyfriend is usually an all around nice guy who is family oriented and fun to be with. He is a dedicated worker and family man. But lately he seems self-destructive. Keep in mind he works two jobs so he is working 17 hours 5 days a week which he's been doing over a year now. He gets NO sleep, maybe 2 hours a night. That could be what's getting to him. But he is unwilling to make a change. I told him he either needs depression medication or a job change or both. So he's been extremely mean to me lately, turning everything I say upside down and picking fights with me in front of our son. He seems to not be caring about anything and he's so cold and hard inside. I prefer not to say exactly what, but he's been getting into something substance related, he's having like a relapse of our old party days or something, he's got the wrong friends. He actually took something out in front of our child and I had to pull him from his high chair and take him in the other room. He's like, "what, he doesn't know what's going on." and I'm like, "it' doesn't matter it's the act." Also, he smokes cigarettes and I hate cigarettes and we have an agreement not to smoke in the house. But he's been smoking in here anyway after I go to bed. I don't believe me and my child should have to suffer for his bad habit, he should take it outside. He knows my wishes but goes behind my back anyways. He would normally never do this. I'm not a mean girlfriend, just a good mother. So this is totally not normally him and I don't understand what is happening here. All he does is bitch about life and say how he's going to die early and stuff and I'm so sick of it now. He never wants to do anything anymore with us as family. I don't want our son growing up in this environment, but also, I really love and care about my boyfriend and know that something deep inside him is really wrong and I would hate to turn my back on him, but am tempted to kick him the fuck out, he's really pressing my buttons, it's like he's seeing how far I will go with this. Also, our sex life is nothing to complain about, just so you know. Is this something we may be able to get passed or is this an ending he has created and he's going to lose everything that's good in his life? I know it's up to him to make a change, but how much should I take? Once it's over with us, that's it, it's over, that's why I am putting off the end until whatever sets me off, sets me off. Please help.

Sounds like everything jsut seems to be building up on him and he's dealing with it he best he can. Like said somewhere below he really needs to go and take a holiday- a break from real life to relax and forget his problems for a while. He's really stressed so its nothing you have done but a combination of things. Stress is your killer. Get him to talk some more and find ways of releasing his stress there are a number of ways but the best would be a holiday an escape from life. Just be careful that if he keeps acting like this he might start getting depression which isn't any good at all. Just make him talk to you about his problems, try to help him with stress and make him take a break from it all jsut for a few days. With any luck he will come back rejuenevaed and the same old man ready to deal with life with a fresh outlook

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