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ok so my ex boyfriend and i have been on and off for a little over 4 years. i did see other people in between but its not the same. he has been my best friend for what seems to be my whole life. i have been able to go to him for everything. well a year ago November we got back together and things were great. he means everything to me. i love him more then anything and i know that he truly loves me.. however things got rough this past September and we broke up again. i dumped him. but we promised to be best friends still. for a while things were still great. like we still hooked up and kissed and everything but i don't want to be friends with benefits. but i cant help it when im with him. so last week the week of November 15th was great. we hung out Monday, Wednesday(what would have been 1 year) and then Saturday. Wednesday was the best. i mean he told me he loved me and everything but then Saturday he was a jerk. we hooked up and i told him i loved him and hes like i know u do. but was gay about it. he ended up leaving shortly after. then we didn't talk all week. till i called him Friday upset needing someone to talk to and he couldn't be there for me. then on Saturday i told him again that i really needed him and hes like well im busy. BLAH! i cant take this anymore. its like he cares about me but he doesn't show it. he never calls me anymore like he promised he would and like how tings were b4 we got back together. what should i do? im not happy anymore. i want to express myself to him and tell him how im hurting but i don't know how to. i don't want to stop talking to him cause he has always been my best friend but its like i have too. i don't know what to do. please help me! (link)
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It would appear that he's somewhat neglecting you dear. Although it's been 4 years (albeit off and on) - perhaps now is the time to sit down and ask yourself - "has the relationship run its course?" It looks like things are in a pretty bad way, and perhaps it would be better to walk away now, rather than being confused and upset for another couple of years.
I don't thnk you've experienced a proper relationship yet, and I think it'd be healthy for you to do so. You need an environment where your boyfriend loves and worships you. You should be made to feel special!
If you're not willing to do that, then confront him and explain to him that you do just feel like friends and not lovers, and that isn't what you want. Explain that you're not "one of the boys" and thus you shouldn't be treated like one. He should treat you like his princess - because that's what you deserve.
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Thank you so much! that really helped and made me smile. im adding you as one of my favorite columnists!
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