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Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!
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Wow, yeah, you're definately going to feel your feelings for him rise to the surface again as soon as you see him. You "got over him" because it's been a while, but it doesn't erase what once was. It only dissipated, the emotions needed some place to go so they settled, but they are still there, just burried. So, be prepared to feel again, but I would say, go ahead and enjoy yourself. I know it hurts when it's over, I know this feeling all too well, but actually, in my experience I've learned to get used to getting over things when I have no choice to. Like I'm sure you've heard the saying it's kind of along the lines of "It's better to have loved than to never have loved at all." Definately, if the night is feeling right and everthing seems to be going so good, don't fight it. Some things start off slow and this could be the beginning of something wonderful, even though it seems like an eternal road with nothing at the end, take the time to check out the scenery along the way and you could find yourself at a great place in the end. There's definately going to be bumps along the way (a few girls on his part) when the road is long, but it's really unimportant and irrelevant to what is important: The fact that you two obviously like being with each other when you get to be. Nothing wrong with that. Now I don't know how far away his college is or whatever, but maybe you two could work something out, not serious because of his not wanting g'friend strain mixed in with school, but at least some keep in touch as friends kinda thing. Talk to him about it. You've known each other for a while now (off and on) but you should be able to talk about it. Let me know how it goes after Friday night!! Also, I appreciate your compliment on my advice giving. It's just that I enjoy it so I put my heart into it and it comes out good, (and very long because my answers are thorough if they need to be). Okay, have some fun 2morrow night and go ahead and enjoy the boy toy. As for the strenght you think you might not have, you don't need it. The time spent with him is more important. The soul craves things to long for, so you won't be able to help it. I hope I helped enough:)
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wow. thanks for the honest heartfelt advice on your part. that was so much more than i expected and so true. i just really want a future with this guy-i have no idea why-anyways thanks again u have no idea how much i appreacite it.
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