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Our 21 year old daughter had to move back home, because her roomate moved out to go to college. Our daughter couldn't afford rent on her own, so she moved in with us. She got a job working as a cocktail waitress in a real dumpy bar, now she has started dating a "regular" from the bar, and he is a 23 year old drug(meth)dealer. I have pleaded with her not to go out with this loser, to no avail. Question: Should we throw her out and risk her moving in with the boyfriend or try to put up with it, in hopes that she will see the light and dump him. She says she really likes him. As far as I know, she is not using meth, but does smoke pot. I am really scared. (link)
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Try to keep her safe with you, if she decides to go on her own time, allow her, she is a 21 year old woman now, her choices are her own. Let her know what you think about her choices, but don't try to control her or fight with her. Just offer advice and guidance. Be a friend to her more than anything, because you guys already had your mother/daughter troubled teen years together, don't make a repeat of it. Trust her judgement. If you try to be that mom punishing the 16 year old again, she is going to push away in revenge, you don't want that. Just be there for her. Don't push for arguments or anything. Good luck!
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Thanks, for the advice. My daughter has always been a good girl. She never gave us any trouble in the past. I don't know why at this point she is making bad decisions. All I can do is hope and pray. Thanks again.
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