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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?

Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it.

I have found that honesty is the best policy. I don't mean tell her that she is gross or disgusting but just tell her that she is a littl chunky just like you just told us. She already knows she is over weight so you are not going to let this huge cat of of the bag she knows it already. For as long as you tell her that she isn't she will believe nothing you say because you are in fact trying to lie to her even though you are just trying to be kind. Maybe she just needs to hear the truth and then will do something about it. Suggest the atkins diet or that she lay off the HoHos so much. Start drinking a lot of water and/or diet drinks. Try and be supportive with her diet plan when she makes one and then compliment her a lot. You can be honest with people without hurting them. She already knows the truth just let her know that you still like her anyway. Good luck...:)

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(Rating: 5) Thanks :) I don't really like her, so I don't care about the last bit, cuz it's her life. But the first part of ur advice is really helpful!
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