Hi. This is my first question ^_^
I'm 14 (15 next month) and I just got into high school. Last year and all the school years before it I went to a private seventh-day adventist school. This year I switched over to public school because the private school was getting worse and I wanted to take Japanese and Computer Programming, which it didn't offer.
Well, on the first day of school, I didn't know -anyone- and this girl, let's call her "D", invited me to eat lunch with her and her friend (who we can call "G").
They're very nice, and we've become like best friends. D and G have known each other forever, and are best friends, so I sort of feel like the third wheel. My best friend since I was 5 goes to that school, but she has a different lunch period and since she's a junior we have no classes together.
I'm not really like D and G. As I've gotten to know them, I see they're sort of like the girls who talk about other girls just because they're prettier or smarter than them (without realizing it, unfortunately many females do this unintentionally and ignorantly). I know some people now, and I think I'd want to eat lunch with them more, but I would feel bad leaving D and G alone, since our table is less filled than others.
They always talk about these guys they like and how hot they are, and I don't like the same type of guys. Usually, I won't like a guy before talking to him, I need to know the intellectual side of them first, but D and G know I don't like their type and they constantly talk about their "guys" (they also stalk them, and I don't really want to get a stalker reputation since I don't, I was just talking with D and G).
Should I ditch them, and how so?
Thanks.
-Farren
First of all,WOW you sound like an extremely intelligent girl!! Good for you! Ok,that's a tough situation because you don't want anyone's feelings to get hurt.Why don't you try alternating days,meaning eat with D & G on certain days,and with your new friends on others.That would be a slow way of easing into the transition of lunch tables.If you really feel like you can't stand another day with D & G just sit them down one day at lunch and explain to them very nicely,but straight-forward,that you feel like you guys are going in seperate directions.Let them know that you still care about them very much,and you'll always be greatful for how they kind of took you under their wings when you came there.But tell them how you simply don't enjoy a lot of the same things that they do,and that you like to keep an open mind to ALL people,no matter their popularity or race or looks,and so you think it's best that you start eating lunch with some different people.Let them know that you don't want any hard feelings and that you're always there for them if they need you.If they're truly decent people,and honestly are your friends,they should respect that.I hope this helps some!Best of luck!! ;)
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Thanks for taking so much time to think of such a nice/good answer. It really helped!
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