Hello, my name is Jane Moon.
I have been through some things: rape; sexual harassment; sexual relationships; relationships with both older guys and younger; drinking; recently-gotten-over anorexia; and of course, love and crushes. I also grew up with a lot of guyfriends so I understand why they act the way they do.
I had hard times going through problems, and I wouldnt be able to forgive myself if I let another person go suffer like I did. I want to help you, because you probably dont deserve all these pains happening to you. There is no way to stop them--they are part of life--but I CAN help you go through it without much pain.
I can help eating disorder problems well especially, because i have been there myself, and my friend helped me get over my disorder, so i know how i can help.
You are NOT alone.
Remember,I'm always here to help if you need me.
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OK I have this "friend". Really she used to be my best friend, then I went away for the summer and she really started irritating me by talking about all these hot guys she's saying and how they all hit on her and how when I come back I get the less hotter one because she saw them first. WTF is that?! Do any of your friends do this? And plus, I KNOW for a fact that all of them do not hit on her because 1) She's honestly not that attractive. I'm prettier than her, and I don't really think I'm all that pretty anyway. 2) Whenever we went out together, which was quite alot, nobody ever hit on her. She'd always approach the guys she knew first.
Well anyway, back to what I was originally saying...over the summer things got different. After I got back things were not the same between her, me, and our other mutual friend. The mutual friend and I would still get online and call each other and hang out and stuff. But the main girl barely wanted anything to do with us. The one thing that set me off was one day we were all supposed to go to Ryan's (a steakhouse) which is 30 minutes away but this "friend" called and bailed on me (telling me she had a headache and didn't want to drive) like she always ALWAYS used to but I always took it from her. So I was pissed and asked my other friend to go hang out so we went to Wal-Mart and guess who pulled up right as we were walking home?
Yup you guessed it. So the other friend asked for a ride and the "friend" looked kinda irritated then hesitated. Since then I haven't spoken to her till a few days ago. Today she was suposed to take me to pick up my check from Subway, but she didn't. I called twice, left a message on her phone and on AIM but nothing. I knew she wasn't going to come which is why I made plans for someone else to take me.
My problem is, she wants me to go to her birthday party on Friday and since she's been such a terrible friend to me and done nothing but made me feel ugly when we were out together (by saying the hot guys were looking at her not me), and never keeping promises or plans...should I go? I mean normally I'm such a loyal person but I think she's just gone overboard with this. I'm sick of it.
I'm so sorry this was long...I just thought you all should nkow the whole story. Thanks for answering and I will rate you a 5 if you even put one sentence just because you read all this! :D (link)
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haha..It's aiite that its lengthy..I've seen LONGER!
Anyway, I know exactly what you are talking about because I used to have a friend like that.
People who acts this way are not neccessarily bad ones at heart. Not that I am accusing you, but just to tell you your friend just might be acting the way she does to hide her jealousy and insecurity.
Maybe during the summer you have been asked out?
Or perhaps while you were gone, she was irritated by how she was never asked out/barely asked out.
It is very likely that she just wants to show herself that she is likeable girl too, simply out of jealousy and insecurity.
You might have to watch out for her, because I know that, out of desperation for true love, these kind of people often are willing to do anything, including drugs,sex and alcohol, just so they could be "loved".
Now, I'm not saying she will. But I've seen many of my friends get out of control like that, and I want you to know this before it happened if it does.
My advice of solution?
Go to her party.
I KNOW it WILL be irritating for you, but if you do not go, then she will feel like she was stabbed on the back.
"First she takes all the hot guys, and NOW THIS?!"
Also, if she feels as much insecure about her looks, take her to shopping.
Bring some one your fashion-know-it-all friends along so she could get all the hottest trends of clothes and make-up.
This "sharing of beauty" will lessen her jealousy.
I truly hope my advice helped you
I also thank you for reading my equally lengthy answer :)
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Rating: 5
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Thank you so much! I never would have thought of it the way you said so thank you for showing me!
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